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Non-condemnation. Simply put, non-judgmental.
Here, I think, an important point. Bezotsenochnoe fact does not mean that we have within ourselves do not blame anyone and are in a state of the Bodhisattva.
It means that we are coping with the momentum vent their assessment and their noble rage outside. Because our attitude no matter what says more about us than about the matter than.
If we recognize this, and are willing to spare others from the need to deal with us - fit, to repent, to make excuses - this is it, non-judgmental.
Silently within yourself something to do with it. Themselves.
Very often, this tool - to condemn the other, and even throw in their condemnation of it, see what you're bad, to wriggle out now, as you know - is used when there is no other way to deal with aggression within yourself. And it burns and hurts. As coal.
Non-judgmental. Non-judgment. One of the main nishtyakov America, which is difficult given to us, because ... it is impossible to explain, an example is needed. Dating with his manager. And I tell her indignantly: "Can you imagine such a happy with the weekend toll pitches for the writers sitting just a day and listens to everyone for $ 20 Two minutes of the pitch - two feedback minutes, one - if it is necessary to clarify the following...! Generally there is no conscience in man, and in coming -. It's self-preservation obvious haircut suckers! ". The manager looks at me sternly and asked: "Do you how sad they for their money in a weekend will do what they want This is not your time or your money, so - none of your business?"..
Silent, with downcast eyes. It also departs. Since she arrived a long time ago, but because of Israel - our mentality it broadly familiar. Explains.
- My father said, the first time it hit the liberty of immigrants from the Soviet space. Early married who later, someone brings up children properly who do wrong. My mother was a woman of the USSR said that breastfeeding a child after a year of bad for the bite. An unknown woman just came up and began to judge my mother for what she does. Right now I'm very serious talking - to draw attention to it. This is because of the cultural differences that can ruin your career here. You have the right to express their opinion about something only when it directly concerns you - do you pay for it, or it is in your house. Everything else - non-judgmental.
After this meeting with the other. I told him. He told me:
- Yes! You know how I long to wean? If you do not judge all around for how they live, think and do - what then to speak at all?
They began to remember. Well, it's understandable childhood. I'm not Russian - Chukchi, narrow-eyed, smart-ass, etc. He is a fat - a fat, lazy, stupid. Youth. I am beautiful - so stupid. Ugly - never married not go. She married at age 19 - sooner he jumped fool soon divorce. No children - are selfish, have children - in a studio apartment ?! Only 8 out of 10 on the Apgar? What kind of people are you ?! Poor? So stupid and lazy. Wealthy - not naebesh not live! We printed 5 thousand copies. Copies. modern prose - shit! Napechat 100 thousand detective -. Even more shit! It is better to do nothing than that! Who told you that you're a writer? Media Manager - that's what people are blockheads! Typo or comma did not put there - first Russian language is taught! Dog with one egg? So his pedigree exaggerated! You do not know how to translate such a word - ashamed girl, that's the basics ...!
As I said, when I had just arrived, one producer - before working for the US market, you need to reconsider yourself - to rethink itself. Because it seems that you come from extremely dehumanized place.
Tekst: Lilya Kim